Parents — Don’t Feel Guilty About Taking Time Out!
Do you feel guilty if you sit down and enjoy a cup of coffee while reading a magazine when there are toys to tidy up and dishes to wash?
If so, don’t worry, you’re definitely not alone. As a parent, it’s easy to put your children’s needs before your own. Most parents feel guilty when taking time out for themselves.
However, if you’re to be a relaxed, happy parent who remains calm under pressure, it’s extremely important to devote some time to yourself and your own needs every day, without feeling guilty at all.
But, how do you do that?
Free Up Time
If you feel as if you don’t have any spare time, free up some time.
Decide which household tasks can wait until tomorrow, and, instead of doing them, devote that time to yourself.
Make sure you do this at a time of the day when you won’t be disturbed or interrupted, such as when your children are at school or after they’ve gone to sleep.
Do Whatever You Want
During this “me-time,” do whatever you want, whether it’s simply sitting quietly and watching the world go by or doing something active like dancing or running.
If you feel as if you can’t afford to do some of the things you used to enjoy, look for low-cost alternatives. So, if you love reading but can’t afford to buy many books, join your local library and borrow books for free.
If you can’t afford a gym membership, go running outdoors or find a park with outdoor gym equipment that you can use for free.
Devote at least half an hour a day to meeting your own needs.
Get Rid of Guilt
If guilty feelings or thoughts of “I should be doing this or that” come into your mind, let them go immediately.
Tell yourself that you’re taking this time out for the benefit of your family.
The Rewards of Regular Time Out
If “me-time” becomes a habit, you and your family will reap the rewards.
You’ll feel more relaxed and happier.
You’ll be more likely to remain calm and in control when your children try your patience.
You’ll be less likely to feel tired, stressed, deprived and resentful, and therefore less likely to take your negative feelings out on your partner and children.
Remember that “me-time” benefits the whole of your family.
What Would You Like to Do in the Next Week?
Grab a piece of paper or and write a list of 10 different things you’d like to do during your “me-time” over the next week.
Schedule “me-time” in your diary and keep your dates with yourself every day.
At the end of the week, notice how you feel both within yourself and in your relationships with your partner and children.